There comes a point in life, when we face the reality that no one leaves childhood unscathed. And our parents gave us “stuff” that we need to work through.
HOW TO REPARENT YOURSELF
(A Thread 🧵):
HOW TO REPARENT YOURSELF
(A Thread 🧵):
We rely on our parents for our physical, emotional, and spiritual development. We’re born fully dependent on them.
The truth is most of our parents never learned to: meet their own needs, let alone another person’s needs.
The truth is most of our parents never learned to: meet their own needs, let alone another person’s needs.
Our parents pass down their unresolved trauma and their coping mechanisms.
Many of us have emotionally immature parents who didn’t provide the space to fully develop a sense of self. We witnessed: dysfunctional relationships or dynamics that have an impact.
Many of us have emotionally immature parents who didn’t provide the space to fully develop a sense of self. We witnessed: dysfunctional relationships or dynamics that have an impact.
The result: we struggle with meeting our needs, with regulating our emotions, with communication, or with coping mechanisms that no longer serve us.
By reparenting ourselves, we learn to become a wise inner parent (or the parent we never had.)
By reparenting ourselves, we learn to become a wise inner parent (or the parent we never had.)
THE 4 PILLARS OF REPARENTING:
1. Emotional regulation: the skill of being able to navigate our emotional states. Learning to witness our emotions rather than reacting to them. Learning to pause and breathe.
1. Emotional regulation: the skill of being able to navigate our emotional states. Learning to witness our emotions rather than reacting to them. Learning to pause and breathe.
2. Loving discipline: creating boundaries with ourselves through making small promises to ourselves each day. It’s through small promises that we develop new habits. Healthy habits create self confidence.
3. Self care: true self care isn’t about self indulgence, it’s about supporting your needs and valuing your needs. Things like: meditation, spending time in nature, spending time alone, connecting with people you love.
4. Rediscover your childlike sense of wonder: this is done through play, unstructured time to do what you love, and doing things without any desired outcome for your inner child.
This thread is taken directly from my book “HOW TO DO THE WORK” chapter 11: Reparenting.
I hope it was helpful 🙏
I hope it was helpful 🙏
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